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Kay Kitley

Nov 26th, 1944 - Mar 30th, 2021

Funeral:  10 a.m. Saturday, April 3, 2021, at Frank & Bright Funeral Home

Visitation:  5-8 p.m. Friday evening at the funeral home

Burial:  Kneff Cemetery


     Frances Kay Kitley, age 76, of Flora, Illinois, passed away early Tuesday morning, March 30, 2021, at Deaconess Midtown Hospital in Evansville, Indiana.

     Kay was born November 26, 1944, in Olney, Illinois, the daughter of Henry C. and Eula E. (Bissey) Skelton.  She was united in marriage to William “Bill” A. Kitley on August 30, 1964, at Harmony United Methodist Church and together they have celebrated 56 wedding anniversaries together.

     She was a lifelong member and active supporter of Harmony United Methodist Church.  Kay enjoyed looking after her grandkids, gardening and canning, and keeping the yard nicely mowed.  She appreciated the beauty and cultivation of flowers, and will be remembered for her delicious baked goods which she often shared with her family and friends.  She was an original member of the Gardening Angels club, and a member of the Clay County Hospital Auxiliary.

     Kay is survived by her husband: Bill Kitley of Flora; 3 children: Kent (Tisha) Kitley of Flora, Deanna (Shane) Carder of Clay City, and Jenny (Steve) Henson of Flora; 6 grandchildren: Morgan (Cole) Linder, Colton Kitley, Brett (Kate) Carder, Brock Carder, Dani Henson, and Andi Henson; her soon-to-arrive and lovingly anticipated first great-grandchild: William Knox Linder; a sister: Susan (Steve) Oglesby of Houston, Texas; 2 aunts: Audrey Weiler and Doris Sanders; and several nieces and nephews.

     She was preceded in death by her parents and her daughter: Julie Elizabeth Kitley.

     A funeral ceremony will be held at 10 a.m. Saturday, April 3, 2021, at Frank & Bright Funeral Home in Flora with Pastor Tony Loyd officiating.  Interment will follow in Kneff Cemetery.  Visitation will be 5-8 p.m. Friday evening at the funeral home.  Memorial donations are suggested to the Flora Public Library or Harmony United Methodist Church, and will be accepted at the funeral home.  To share a memory or condolence, visit:  


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Nancy Dehart

March 30th

So very sorry to hear of Kay’s passing. She will be missed.

Judy Pearce Griffith

March 30th

Bill and family, so sorry to hear about Kay. She was always such a loving person and will definitely be missed. Prayers for the family.

John and Judy Lusk

March 30th

Bill, and family: We are so sorry for your loss. Kay was a lovely lady who will be missed by all those that knew her. May God be with each of you and bring you strength and comfort during this difficult time. Rest in Peace, Kay.

Caly City United Methodist Church

March 31st

Kay will be missed by so many. Keeping Bill and all the Family in our thoughts and prayers. Hugs!

Randy and Lori Poole

March 31st

Prayers for comfort and peace to you all. Kay will be remembered for her sweet spirit in our hearts!

Doug & Marsha Hockman

March 30th

We are so sorry for your loss. She was always so friendly and always had a smile on her face. She will be missed by many!

Robert & Janice Hagen

March 31st

Kay was a beautiful person, many prayers for her family!

Stan and Carla Stanford

March 31st

We are saddened by your loss. We think so much of your family and feel blessed to have known Kay. She was a wonderful person.

Jim & Sharon Speiser

March 31st

So sorry for your loss. Prayers for the family.

Robin & Sharla Todd

March 31st

Very sorry for your loss prayers for the entire family.

Steve and Nancy Mink

March 31st

Kay was such a wonderful wife, mother, and grandmother. She will be missed by so many. Our thoughts and prayers are with all who love her.

Jim and Kay Reynolds

March 31st

So sorry for your loss!

David Lewis

March 31st

Hello friends Bill and family. We all are so very sorry, to hear about our wonderful friend, Kay. Everyone thinks the world and all of your Christian family. Our hearts are truly broken, as we will always treasure our very fond memories of Kay. You have my sincere sympathy and friendship, Bill and family. With much love, Dave Lewis

Bud and Linda Martin

March 31st

Bill and Family: Please accept our sincere sympathies in the loss of your wonderful wife, mother and grandmother. Kay was one of the most caring and giving persons we knew. She was an awesome friend. We cherish the fun times we had with her in Chicago every November for so many years. So thankful for those memories. She will be so missed. Please know that each of you are in our thoughts and prayers...especially you, Bill. RIP sweet Kay❤️

Mike and Sharon Gray

March 31st

So sorry for your loss. Kay was a beautiful Christian lady. We always enjoyed talking with her wherever we saw her. She will be missed by many. Prayers of comfort for all the family and friends.

George Flexter

March 31st

She was always so nice to me and the family. She will be missed by many.

Sharon David

March 31st

Kay was such a sweet lady and will be missed. Bill and family; you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Jeff & Jennifer Banta

March 31st

So sorry for your loss.

David Bryden & Family

March 31st

We are so deeply sorry for your loss. Kay was such a wonderful person and she will be missed. Sending love, comfort, and healing prayers.

Mike & Connie Spitzner and family

March 31st

Sincere condolences to the family of Kay. She was a true lady with a kind heart. She enjoyed the beauty of life.

Kelly New

March 31st

Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. Kay was a great lady and will be missed!

Mark and Karen Wolfe Haram

March 31st

Mark and I are both so saddened to learn of Kay’s passing. We remember her very fondly from our days in Flora. Mark’s dad, the late Reverend George Haram, married Kay and Bill in 1964 and, like us, was extremely fond of both of them. They were wonderful church members and friends to Mark’s family and Kay will always be remembered. Sending sincerest sympathies to all the family.

Mary Anne Pittman

March 31st

So sorry for your loss. She was always such a friendly lady with a smile on her face.

Lynn and Judy Van Dyke

March 31st

So sorry for all of you. Prayers for strength and peace during this time.

Don & Mary Ellen Knapp

March 31st

We are so sorry to learn about Kay. She was a sweet and caring lady, who will be greatly missed. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Bill.

Fred & LynneToombs Gocey

March 31st

To Kay's family. I went to school with Kay. She was one of the nicest people I've ever known. I remember how she used to feed some of the high school kids. They all thought she was a remarkable cook. God give you all peace. Prayers.

Tracy Williams

March 31st

I am so sorry for your loss.

Don, Jane and Darren Delaney

March 31st

Bill and family, We are very sorry to hear the news about Kay She was a wonderful person and good friend, and will be missed greatly by all who knew her. We are praying for your family to get through this very sad time. May the cherished memories of good times past remain in your hearts forever. Sympathy and blessings for the Kitley family.

Marsha Rudy

March 31st

I am so very saddened by this news...Kay was one of a kind, so happy, loving, and caring always. I lift all of her family and friends up in my prayers...Heaven truly had gained a angel❤️

Steve and Linda Spicer

March 31st

We loved this kind lady. She will be greatly missed by so many. We are praying for peace for her family, and we are thankful to know that she is resting in God’s arms.

Bill and Robin Atwood

March 31st

We are very sorry for your loss! We Loved Kay’s smile and greeting! She made the world a brighter and better place. She loved her family and friends!!

Brad & Tina Briscoe

March 31st

So sorry to hear of Kay's passing. Please know you have our deepest sympathy and continued prayers.

Linda Waller

March 31st

Oh I am so very sorry to learn of Kay's passing..she was always so kind..prayers for comfort during this difficult time

Arty & Judy Snell

March 31st

Bill & family, sorry for your loss. Kay was such a good person and is taking her place in heaven. God give you all the strength to get thru this. Kay Rest In Peace.

Jay & Linda

March 31st


Caly City United Methodist Church

March 31st

Kay will be missed by so many. Keeping Bill and all the Family in our thoughts and prayers. Hugs!

Ed and Donna Smith

March 31st

Steve and Susan, so sorry to hear of your loss.

Jack and Freda Stanfield

March 31st

Bill & Family, So sorry to hear Kays death, she was a great Christian lady, a wonderful friend, always a smile. Our thoughts & Prayers are with you in the coming days.

Wayne & Sue Hurliman

March 31st

We are so sorry to hear of Kay’s passing. She was such a lovely lady. Our thoughts and prayers go out to Bill and all of the family. She will be missed. 😢


March 31st

Very sorry for your loss.

Robert and Deena Mosbarger

March 31st

Our hearts are so heavy and hurt for your loss. She will be sorely missed by our S. Rt 45 community. Prayers for comfort in the days ahead.

Henry & Barbara Gill

March 31st

Bill and family, we are so saddened and sorry for your loss. Kay was such a wonderful lady, so friendly and such a nice person. Our sympathy to you and your family.

Donna Bissey Ralph

March 31st

My deepest condolences for your loss. Kay was a kind and generous woman who raised a loving family. The stars will shine brighter with her presence! May God wrap you all in His loving arms. Donna

Tyler & Susan Smith

March 31st

Bill, my thoughts are with you and your family during this sad transition. I remember the nights of Pinochle with mom and dad Thursday evenings at your house and of course all the rhubarb and some times gooseberry pies.... Kay's kindness and care is reflected in all your kids and is manifest in Harmony Church. May her memory be a blessing to all that knew her.

Steve & Betty Stanford

March 31st

Thoughts and prayers for all family and friends. She will be missed 💞🙏

Christine Heckman

March 31st

Deanna, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts during this difficult time.

MaryLou Wheeler

March 31st

Condolences to all the family. May you feel God’s comforting arms wrapped around you during this difficult time.

Becky Stanford Stocke

March 31st

Kay was a very special lady. I always enjoyed visiting with her. She certainly will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with the family at this very difficult time.

Rick and Trudy Stanford

March 31st

Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. She will be missed certainly by family and this community.

Susan Allison

March 31st

I am so sorry to hear of Kay’s death. I enjoyed every conversation we ever had and I’ll miss her beautiful smile and kind words. Rest In Peace Kay. Condolences to Bill and family.

Rick & Rebecca Weiler

March 31st

Kay was always a special cousin as we grew up together and our families were very close. Loved her smile, laugh, especially her baking skills. She is now with our Lord and us mere mortals will certainly miss her. Praying now for her family. May God bless them.

Becky Henson

March 31st

Classmate and long term garden club pal,you will be missed.

Tom Buenker

March 31st

Bill—-So sorry to hear of Kay’s passing. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Tom and Connie

Walterene and family

April 1st

So very sorry for your loss. Such a sweet lady always remember her beautiful smile..

Tom and Gayle Harris

April 1st

Bill and family, so very sorry to hear about Kay’s passing. She was such a caring beautiful person. Loved all of our talks when we would see each other. You all in our thoughts and prayers.

Larry and Donna Milner

April 1st

so sorry for your loss, thoughts and prayers for the family.

Holli (Hilliard) Schremser

April 2nd

Jenny and family, I’m so very sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. Prayers of comfort & peace for your family during this difficult time. ❤️

Gene McAllister

April 1st

Just heard what a shock prayers and condolences

Tami Craig Schilling

April 1st

So many childhood memories of Kay...her bright smile, kind eyes and caring ways drew people toward her and made it clear she would help if she could. Sincere condolences to Bill, Kent, Deanna, Jenny and your families. She will be missed.

Patricia Bissey Greaves

March 31st

A very lovely, generous and thoughtful woman, my cousin knew how to make everyone feel special. My heartfelt condolences to her family and many friends.

Nancy Travis

March 31st

Bill and very sorry to hear of Kay's passing. She was a special friend since our early years at Harmony UM Church. She was the perfect example of a strong Christian woman, a loving wife, mother and grandmother. May your fond memories help sustain you during these difficult times.

Joe and Jane Gilliland

March 31st

We are so sorry for your loss. Kay was always so very kind. As so many have already said here, she will be sorely missed. We will keep all of you in our prayers in the days ahead.

Melanie and Bill Brown

March 31st

So very sorry to hear this. She was such a sweet lady. Prayers to all the family.

Bill Sanders & Family

March 31st

Dear Bill and Family - So deeply saddened to hear of Kay's passing. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you all. I still have many fond memories of Kay as my older cousin. May God's blessings be with her and you all.

Leon & Glenda Sharp

March 31st

Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. May God bless you.

Joe & Anita Harris

April 1st

A long-time Garden Club friend and an inspiration in all ways. Always a shining example. You will be so missed.

Joel & Shawna Powless

March 31st

So sorry for your loss. Kay will be missed. Prayers for the family.

Jeff & Crystal Allen

March 31st

So sorry to hear of your loss. She was truly an amazing woman. Bill and she were my 4H Leaders and fondly remembered. Prayers for the Bill and families during this time for comfort and peace, knowing she is in the Lord's arms.

Jennifer Hemrich Bates

March 31st

Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry for you and your family. I got to know your mom a bit when I waited tables at grandma's kitchen. She was so sweet and nice. You are like her. I'll miss seeing her around.

Pam (Glassford) and Ken Smith

March 31st

We're so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May God bring comfort and peace to each one of your family.

Debra Phillips

March 31st

So sorry for your loss, you have my deepest sympathy. Prayers for comfort and peace for you all. I have a lot of great memories of Kay from going to church at Harmony. Kay was always so kind. She always made a point to say hi to me when she saw me.

Jack and Jean Margaret Bissey

March 31st

Am very saddened to hear this news....Kay was a cousin and I have many fond memories when Mom and Dad carried us to Illinois from Michigan for family visits! Gathering at our grandparents to play cards or other activities, she was always full of laughter and smiling.... She will be missed by all. Our thoughts and prayers go out to Bill and family.

Emma Klein

March 31st

I will miss her smile. Her kindness. Playing cards boating and. Our talks.

Tim & Lori McAllister

April 2nd

Kay was such a kind hearted person. She always had a smile on her face and was so beautiful both inside and out. Prayers to the Kitley family as we know this was great loss for your family. Our community will miss her greatly.

Doris (Henderson) Murphy

April 1st

I am so saddened by the news of Kay's passing. It's been a long time since I've seen you but I will always remember you as friends. I always enjoyed your Christmas card each year. My prayers are with you Bill, and your entire family.

David L. James

April 2nd

May God bless each of you with a sense of peace and may he carry your sadness and grief upon his shoulders. Though our time together consisted mainly of a week or two each summer, I will always remember my cousin Kay for her warmth, patience and understanding. Although I was younger, and likely a bother, Kay never seemed to mind. She would always make time for me, and with a laugh or a smile, she made me feel loved, for this I'll be eternally thankful.

Anthony and Cathy McAllister

April 1st

Bill and family, we are heart broken to hear about your Loss. You all are in our thoughts and prayers. Kay always had a great smile and something nice to say. Probably the nicest person i have ever known, and thats how she will always be remembered in our community as a great lady.

Don Williams

April 1st

we are so very sorry to hear about Kay. She was a very good person.

Don & Bonnie Allen

April 4th

So very sorry to hear Kay has died.The family will be in our prayers.She will be missed by all who knew her. She touched lives and will be remembered as a warm loving dependable person .

Mike & Shirley (Pearce) Bily

April 4th

So very sorry for your loss Bill and family. I remember many a 4-H meeting at your home Bill and the wonderful treats Kay would make. May God give you comfort during this difficult time.

Jane Snyder

April 5th

So sorry to learn of Kay’s passing. May God provide comfort for each of you at this difficult time.

Bill and Brenda Britton

April 2nd

In our thoughts and prayers.

Sam & Ramona Anderson

April 12th

Our condolences to the family.

Vernadean Chartrand

April 22nd

Prayers for your family.



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