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Tom Abner

Nov 22nd, 1938 - May 6th, 2020

A private ceremony is planned.  Interment will be in Floral Garden of Memories Cemetery.


   Arthur Thomas “Tom” Abner, age 81, of Flora, Illinois, passed away Wednesday morning, May 6, 2020, at his home surrounded by his family.

   He was born November 22, 1938, in Beattyville, Kentucky, the son of Arthur “Doc” and Carrie Alice (Kincaid) Abner.  He was united in marriage to Carolyn Sue Erwin on June 25, 1965, at First Christian Church in Flora, and together they shared 48 years of marriage until her death November 7, 2013.

   Tom was a 1956 graduate of Flora Township High School and then continued his education at the University of Illinois.  He graduated from U of I with a degree in Petroleum Engineering in 1961.  After graduation, Tom enlisted with the Army Reserve.  After finishing his reserve duties, he began working alongside his father at Abner Trucking Company.

   Tom began his oilfield career at an early age.  His father worked for Gulf Oil, and Tom would do summer work as a roustabout for his father at the early age of 14.  He continued this work, as well as pumping wells, up until his father retired from Gulf Oil.  Tom’s father then started up Abner Trucking Company in 1958, and Tom began running oilfield tank truck services.  It was just a few years later that Abner Trucking began their oilfield pulling unit services.  From then on, Tom never looked back.  He ran a pulling unit until the age of seventy-two at which time he did not retire, but instead, continued to mentor and manage his oilfield hands.  This year marked the 62nd year of operation for Abner Trucking Company.  Tom was a hard worker and took great pride in being a part of the Illinois oil industry. Tom was also a great family man.  When Tom was not working, he enjoyed boating, riding his four-wheeler with his favorite dog Dottie sitting front and center, spending time with his children and grandchildren, and mowing.  Mowing wasn’t work, it was a hobby, and you could tell he enjoyed it if you ventured past his property that looked like a well-groomed golf course.   

   He is survived by 3 children: Randy (Erica) Abner of Flora, Michelle (Kenny) Pietz of Flora, and Jason (Patti) Abner of Los Angeles, CA; 10 grandchildren: Jordan (Josh) Kessler, Gage (Lacey) Cobb, Donovan (Destinee) Cobb, Echoe Abner, Elsie Abner, Justin & Adam Pietz, Alexis Abner, William Abner, and James Abner; and 6 great-grandchildren.

   He was preceded in death by his parents; wife: Carolyn Abner; sister: Mitzi Goldstein; and an infant brother: William.

   A private ceremony is planned.  Interment will be in Floral Garden of Memories Cemetery.  Arrangements are in the care of Frank & Bright Funeral Home in Flora.  Memorial donations are suggested to First Christian Church of Flora and will be accepted through the funeral home.  To share a memory or condolence, visit:  


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Doug & Marsha Hockman

May 6th

We are so sorry for your loss. He was an amazing man!

Lee and Rhonda Ryker

May 6th

So saddened by this loss!! Loved him dearly,, as all of the family. May God rest his soul. Praying for everyone.

Courtney and Alan Ksiazkiewicz

May 6th

So very sorry for the loss of Tom, he was a good fella. Alan loved working for him.

Tom and Della Welch

May 6th

We are so sorry to hear of your father's passing. He was such a great guy, and will be missed by everyone. Our hearts go out to your family.

Joyce Wood Cantrell

May 7th

Tommy was in my high school class of 1956. Always so pleasant. I remember his fathers business in the oil fields as my dad also was in oil field business and did business with Tom's dad. Rest in peace my friend. Prayers for the family..

Sue Hampsten

May 6th

So sorry for your loss. May God wrap His arms around you and give you comfort. God bless you all. Dennis and Sue Hampsten

Ginny Ashley

May 6th

My prayers are with the family. May God give you peace and prayers at this time.

Chris & Jerald Butler

May 6th

He’s rejoicing in heaven. So sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers

Barbara and Don Dishon

May 6th

So sorry to hear about your father. He had a wonderfully productive life. He was blessed to have you guys back with him this past year so he could take things slower. Hugs to all of you during these difficult times.

Becky Stanford Stocke

May 6th

My thoughts and prayers are certainly with the family at this difficult time. Tom will be missed.

Jeff & Marti Ruger

May 6th

So sorry for your loss.

Jane Jones Smith

May 6th

My condolence to the family. Tom always kept me laughing when I was young. Tom, Carolyn and my sister Sally were close friends. They all teased me to tears. Memories I have cherished. Love to all. Jane

Mike & Connie Spitzner & Family

May 6th

Tom was a wonderful man with a big heart. He was always a big supporter of Clay City. His generosity was known to all that knew him.

Patsy Norris Prosser

May 6th

Truly a hard working, genuinely great man. He will be greatly missed.

Asher Wathan

May 6th

My condolences, sorry for your loss.

Sally Jones Miller

May 6th

Randy, Michelle and Jason, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Tom was a great guy. I have many wonderful memories of my time spent with both Tom and Carolyn. Both of your parents were just the best. They were wonderful friends to me. Love Sally

Ken Jennings

May 6th

Sorry for your loss.

Bud & Linda Martin

May 6th

Our sincere condolences to the family. Tom was a good man. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

David and Trudy Koontz

May 6th

So sorry for your loss, always enjoyed talking with him on Sunday mornings. We will miss him.

Karl & Kristy Kramer

May 6th

We are so very sorry for your loss. Rest in Peace Tom!

David Fox

May 6th

Very sorry for your loss Randy and family!

Lana Forsythe

May 6th

I am so sorry to hear this news. Tom was absolutely the best! So many memories growing up. Keeping all the Abner family in my thoughts and prayers.

Stan & Kathy Obrecht

May 6th

So sorry for your loss prayers for family

Robert A. (Bob) Lewis

May 6th

So sorry to hear of Tom's passing! I never knew Tom well just in passing and through working in the oil business. I never heard a bad word about him or from him. I know he was a very good man! God Bless and may he Rest-In- Peace!

Peggy Shroyer Leigh Marty Leigh

May 6th

Comforting prayers to you all. Tom was such a great man. Sure will miss him and his friendly smile full of kindness.


May 7th

So very. Sorry for your loss

Roger McKnight

May 7th

Tom Abner was as kind a person as I've ever known. And certainly the most unassuming. I never saw him in any but a good mood and he never forgot who a friend was. Flora will never feel like the same town to me without him in it. I recall how he drove home from the U of I every weekend all through his college years. We always joked about all the weekend college parties he missed, but he surely found even greater joy at home. Any time I met Tom I felt in the presence of a true friend.

Wayne & Sue Hurliman

May 7th

We are so sorry to learn of Tom’s passing. Our thoughts and prayers will be with his family.

Bill and Gayle Foreman

May 7th

We are so sorry to hear about Tommy. I met him when I was 16 working on a pulling unit for him. He was a good man and a hard worker. He will be greatly missed.

Trevor Strange

May 7th

Had the pleasure of meeting Tom many times delivering pumps. He was always a joy to talk to. He will be missed by many. My thoughts go out to his family and friends.

Willie and Dana Johnson

May 7th

Boy oh boy it is so tough loosing a friend like Tom, we have done a lot of boating and camping over the years. He sure liked to work and play just as hard. He took good care of his family and friends. I will sure miss that laugh and positive attitude.

Mike and Sharon Gray

May 7th

Sorry for your loss. Tom was a wonderful fun loving man. A hard worker and a awesome husband, father, and grandfather. Prayers of comfort for the family, he will be missed by many.

Allen and JoAnn McKnight

May 7th

So sorry to hear of Toms passing, he was a good neighbor, prayers for the family.

Joel and Shawna Powless

May 7th

Very sorry for your loss. We are saying prayers for your family.

Marilyn Hilmes

May 7th

Michelle and Jason...Tom's got somebody up there waiting for him and they can continue there stories that they've told each other a hundred times but Clem will have some new ones...Sorry for your lost...was one of a king man...

May 7th

My sincere sympathy to all the family!. Tom was a great guy and neighbor.

Wanda Eastin

May 8th

I was saddened to learn of Tom's passing. Got to know him as a classmate during our Flora High School years. A good, kind person. My deepest sympathy to his family. He will be missed by many.

Phyllis Gill

May 7th

So sorry for your loss. Tom was a hard working oil field worker from way back.

Lucy Burgess

May 7th

My sincere sympathy to all family. Tom was a great guy and neighbor.

Eunice Golden

May 7th

I'm very sorry to hear about Tom's death. He was a classmate during high school and a good Christian friend. He will be missed by many.

Trudy Zimmerman Stanford

May 7th

I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad. He was such a great man. He was a joy to be around. Always had a smile. He was very much of this community. Love to you all.

Walter J. Chaney Jr.

May 7th

I worked for Tom in the late 70’s Thoughts and prayers for his family! Dedicated Man!

Terry Igert

May 7th

We are very sad to hear about Tom!!!! He was a wonderful man!! Rick and I were blessed to know him!!!!! You have our deepest sympathies!!!

Henry and Barbara Gill

May 7th

Tom was a good man and lived a good life. We shared rides while we were both Engineering students at the University of Illinois in 1958. We never remember hearing him ever saying anything unfavorable about anything or anyone. He will certainly be missed by all who knew and loved him. Our sympathy to all his family.

Troy and Sandy Thomas

May 7th

Randy, Michelle, Jason and family so sorry for the loss of your father . I can remember when we lived out there by the golf course driving by your parents house and seeing him out there mowing and like you said it was a hobby and relaxing to him. Thinking of you all in the days ahead

Rob & Angie McKnight

May 7th

So sorry for the family’s loss. Prayers of comfort are with all.

Vince Guerrettaz

May 7th

Randy and family, so sorry to hear of this great loss in your family. I know he was a great man from all you have shared about him, Randy. May you all find comfort, may his soul rest in peace.

Brad W Baker

May 7th

With Deepest Sympathy. Prayers to the family.

Mariann Buckleh Teynolds

May 7th

A true and loved friend, I will miss him.

Norman and Shirley Fry Workman

May 7th

We are so sorry for loss. May GOD give you comfort during this time.

Ashley and Roberta Moore

May 7th

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers to the family at this difficult time.

Bryan West

May 7th

What an amazing guy! I have fond memories of he and my dad, Dan West, talking about the oil field as Tom was pulling a well for dad. Tom always knew what needed to be done to the well and had a way to fix it. When I took over after dad died, he was always available to answer questions I had and, of course, send out a rig if needed. As a youngster, I thought Tom was a permanent part of the oil patch. It's only when one gets older do you realize that people and situations don't last forever. But now Tom has shed his earthly shell and will be praising our Lord for an eternity. Praying for you all as you remember the good times and the bad. Most of all, I hope you can hold onto each other in the trying times ahead. God Bless

Joe & Pam Harrell

May 8th

We are so sorry to hear the passing of your father. Tom was a great guy and we enjoyed his friendship and the times our families vacationed together. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers. May God comfort you in this sorrowful time.

John Etcheson

May 7th

Tom was a true friend, my sympathy and prayers for the family.

Larry and Mary Jo Patridge

May 7th

Randy and your family, so sorry for your loss, Tommy taught and showed us all how to work and live. I'm sure Jesus met him with open arms and said job well done.

Christine Whelan Thompson

May 8th

Tom was a good friend during high school and later. A group of us ran around together. We had a good time and could count on many hours and occasions of fun and happiness. Tom was such a kind person and always saw the good in everyone. I moved out of Illinois to Nevada many years ago but still remember all the good times and Tom was one of the leaders. Rest in Peace Tom; you've earned it. Much love to your family.

Todd Shulman

May 8th

Tom was as fine a man as I have ever known. We will miss him.

Tammy Shroyer

May 8th

Randy,Erica, and Family, so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sabra VanDyke

May 7th

Tom was a wonderful person and always well mannered. His parents were very sweet Christian people. I will always remember Tom and glad I was raised knowing the Abner family.

Kevin and Linda Ray

May 8th

Our condolences to the Abner Family. Tommy was a wonderful man! Rest In Peace

Merlin and Judy

May 8th

We will really miss Tom when we come to visit. We want you to know you are in our prayers.Strength during these times can only come through him!

Dale and Lois Stanley

May 8th

Tom and I have been friends ever since he started in the oilfield we use to play ping pong together he was a great friend I will miss him

Jack & Freda Stanfield

May 8th

So sorry for your loss, you are in our Thought & Prayers.

John and Helen Powless

May 13th

I ALWAYS admired Tom as a kid. I remember he and brother Dan being very good friends. I always thought his wife Caroline being so pretty. Rest in Peace dear friend. You will certainly be missed.

Leon & Glenda Sharp

May 9th

Sorry for your loss, may God comfort you & bless you, and be with the family.

Sam Burk

May 9th

So sorry to hear of Tom's passing he was a good friend and class mate.

Harry and Linda Penry

May 10th

Sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. I just spoke to Michelle and him at the drs office in March. We are in DeWitt Illinois most of the time. We just come home to mow and get the mail. You all are in our prayers

Kay Gorrell Smith

May 10th

Tom wore a white cowboy hat. He worked in the oil field near Marshall, IL. under my brother-in-law, Everett Smith. Said he couldn't find help that wanted to work as hard as he did. He could quote the books of the bible. A Christian who will be missed. The class of 1956 lost another member. God Bless.

Jim and Patsy Conley

May 11th

Sympathy to the family. Always enjoyed speaking with Tom at church. Such a nice man and a great example of humility, respect, and work ethic. Will be missed.



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